Are you wild enough to let yourself succeed? That is, are you wild enough to let go of what others think, do, say and feel about you?!
Being Beautifully Wild is about being willing to open your mind and your heart to who YOU are. Without needing anyone else to guide how you feel about yourself through the way they’ve treated you in the past.
Are you willing to forgive and let go?
The way most people think about forgiveness makes it impossible to forgive. You can’t always forgive what someone has done. Because people can do really shitty things…
But you can forgive the human being who did it when you have access to the right information. And more importantly, you can forgive yourself, when you let understanding rise up from within you.
We don’t live in a world where people are going to stop doing really crap things to each other anytime soon.
So the key to survival here is to stop doing really crap things to yourself… like holding onto your anger and pain
What would it take for you to see that this person who harmed you in some way wasn’t acting out of hate towards you, but from self-hate?
What would it take for you to see that you don’t have to believe them?
And how would you feel about yourself if you stopped believing them, and turned within instead?
Here’s what you need to think about:
You can’t ‘just forgive’
The greatest mistake people make is thinking that just saying they forgive someone solves the problem. It doesn’t. Forgiveness is a feeling of release, of letting go, of moving on.
Forgiveness has to be played out in a way that allows you to get on with your life, regardless of what someone else has done. You have the mental and emotional freedom to not see yourself as unworthy because of their behavior.
Understanding is essential
To get that release, you have to understand yourself in relation to it all. And that requires self-awareness and a lot of questions.
What do I feel about this? Is that feeling true? What else could I feel about this if I wanted to? Why did they do this – what allowed them to do this? What was my response? Why did I respond that way?
This understanding is the only thing that allows you to just let it all go… Because the more information you have, the harder it is to blame yourself. Self-forgiveness is organic to the process of understanding.
And when you’re forgiving towards yourself, you are much more likely to forgive others. Because you don’t have the space to blame them any longer either. It’s just too hard to hold on to all the heaviness of unforgiveness.
Real forgiveness causes evolution
So this type of forgiveness causes you to see yourself and the other person very differently. It’s an evolution of the heart and mind.
The Teachers made it clear to me years ago that we can’t be unforgiving when we understand what causes others to act badly, and we understand our own response.
That doesn’t mean there’s no trauma there, or pain. It means we’re willing to let go of the feeling that we’re to blame.
When people do really crap things to us, they tend to project the idea that we’re to blame. It’s part of the story that allows them to act badly. But it’s not true. We see this when we look more deeply. (And if they looked more deeply, they’d see it too!)
So this evolution looks a lot like seeing ourselves as beautiful, wonderful beings regardless of what others have done. That’s what inner growth actually is. And when we take part in it, outer growth is a natural consequence.
We no longer have to beat ourselves up for being unworthy. Or hold back the abundance that is calling out to us.
We have the mental and emotional space necessary to get on with the life we want to be living and the success we want to be creating!
Want to create more freedom now?!
Beautifully Wild Forgiveness: 21 Days to Open Your Heart and Mind to Who YOU Are
If you want to finally let go of all the drama in your life, and choose to open up the mental and emotional space for success to occur, my new online course is for you…
Here’s a few key ideas we’ll be talking about:
- What does forgiveness really look like when it’s authentic and deep?
- How do you get to that space of evolutionary forgiveness?
- Why does forgiveness change your levels of success in life, business, money and relationships? And how can you action that…
We are starting next Monday, 11 June.